Suggested Praise Songs:
Resources for Family Worship (with Children):
- How do You Put God First? | Bible Object Lesson on Humility for Kids – Lesson for Kids
- I Am a C-H-R-I-S-T-I-A-N – Song for Kids
- Fishers of Men | Children’s Worship with Actions – Song for Kids
- I’ve got the Joy Joy Joy – Hi Heaven – Song for Kids
- Discussion Questions for Children & Youth arelocated in the section after Explanation, Meditation, and Prayer (at the end of this email/blog).
Explanation:
The Apostle continues by addressing the proper attitudes that men and women should take within the community of faith. He first exhorts the men: “I want the men everywhere to pray, lifting up holy hands without anger or disputing” (v. 8). Those who were “devoted to myths and endless genealogies” (1:4) enjoyed arguments and often quarreled amid debates. The Apostle reminds them that the faith community gathers not to argue but to pray. “Lifting up holy hands” was a typical Jewish posture for prayer, but it was also a bodily confession that those hands had not committed sin.
To the women in the church, he advises: “I also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety” (v. 9). Instead of being preoccupied with elaborate adornment, they are encouraged to “adorn themselves with good deeds” (v. 10). Whether it is men wasting energy on “myths and endless genealogies” (1:4) and arguments, or women competing in outward adornment, the root issue is the same. Just as men are called to “lift up holy hands in prayer,” so women are called to “adorn themselves with good deeds.” To clothe themselves in good deeds, women must learn the Word. That is why the Apostle counsels: “A woman should learn in quietness and full submission” (v. 11).
From today’s perspective, this counsel may sound discriminatory toward women. However, in the Jewish synagogue tradition at that time, instruction in the Law was reserved only for men. Therefore, telling women believers that they must learn was in fact a culturally transformative statement. The Greek word gyne can be translated either as “woman” or as “wife.” The word translated as “quietness” (hesychia) means “with a calm demeanor,” and “with full submission” conveys the sense of “with a willing attitude to be taught.”
The Apostle then continues: “I do not permit a woman to teach or to assume authority over a man” (v. 12). Again, the words may be translated as “wife” and “husband.” As seen in Acts and other letters, the Apostle himself did not place any barriers between men and women. Women played important roles in the churches he planted. Thus, this statement should not be taken as a denial of women’s spiritual leadership, but rather as a situational directive specifically for the Ephesian church. He was likely restraining the disruptive behavior of certain women in that community. To persuade them, the Apostle drew on two arguments from Genesis: first, that Adam was formed before Eve (v. 13), and second, that Eve was the one deceived (v. 14). These were arguments often used in Jewish tradition to assert male superiority.
After addressing the disruptive women, the Apostle then exhorts all women in the faith community: “But women will be saved through childbearing—if they continue in faith, love and holiness with propriety” (v. 15). This does not mean that salvation comes through the act of giving birth. The Apostle uses the definite article with “childbearing,” which signals a specific birth—the unique birth. What is “born” when women “continue in faith, love, and holiness with propriety” is none other than the new person. Salvation that makes us a new creation in Christ is the same for both men and women.
Meditation:
There are several things to be careful about when reading and meditating on the Bible. One is to read and interpret it from today’s perspective. In the time when Scripture was written, slavery was taken for granted. As a minority in that society, Christians were in no position to challenge the injustice of slavery or gather strength to abolish it. Likewise, that era was dominated by a male-centered, patriarchal culture. The gender equality that we experience today was unimaginable in biblical times.
If we do not take those differences into account, we may conclude that the Bible condones slavery or discriminates against women. However, Scripture undermines the evils of slavery and patriarchy without directly overturning those systems. That development later became the foundation for the abolition of slavery and the root of the women’s liberation movement.
Another mistake to avoid when reading and meditating on Scripture is choosing the verses that are favorable to oneself while ignoring those that are not. Today’s passage has been misused by male preachers throughout history as a tool for oppressing women. Because of this passage, the Roman Catholic Church does not ordain female priests, and some Protestant denominations do not allow the ordination of women pastors.
Yet, when we consider Jesus’ attitude toward women and Paul entrusting the church at Philippi to female leaders, it is clear that suppressing women’s leadership in the church is not right. It is similar to how those in power once used the verse, “Let everyone be subject to the governing authorities” (Rom. 13:1), to justify their unjust rule.
When we stand before the Word, we must disarm ourselves and be ready to be accused by the Word. The Word sometimes comforts and encourages us, but it also rebukes and convicts us. It is not we who should manipulate the Word, but we must allow the Word to shape us. When that happens, “she will be saved through childbearing” (v. 15).
For Bible meditation to bear good fruit in our lives, it must always be truthful and honest. Otherwise, meditation on the Word can actually strengthen our lies, falsehoods, and hypocrisy, making us even worse than before.
Prayer:
Lord, today we surrender before Your Word. Rebuke us—we will listen. Break us—we will be broken. We entrust ourselves fully into Your hands, believing that You will rebuild us. Amen.
Discussion Questions for Children & Youth:
Key Point: God’s Word calls us not to argue, show off, or use Scripture for our own advantage. Instead, we are invited to come humbly before God—praying with clean hearts, adorning ourselves with good deeds, and letting God’s Word shape us. True salvation and new life come not from human pride but from surrendering ourselves fully into God’s hands.
- For Preschool-Elementary
- The Bible says we should “lift up holy hands in prayer.” What do you think it means to pray with clean hands and a clean heart?
- Instead of fancy clothes or arguing, the Bible says we should “adorn ourselves with good deeds.” What is one good thing you could do this week to show Jesus’ love?
- When God’s Word feels hard or correcting, do you think that’s a bad thing—or could it be a way God is helping us grow? Why?
- Youth
- Sometimes people use Bible verses to control others or justify unfair systems (like slavery or gender inequality). How can we make sure we read Scripture honestly instead of just picking what benefits us?
- The Apostle Paul told women in his time to “learn quietly” as a way of honoring God, which was actually radical then. How might the same passage be misused today, and what should we remember about God’s view of women and men?
- The prayer says, “Lord, rebuke us—we will listen. Break us—we will be broken.” What does it mean for you personally to let God’s Word challenge and shape you, even when it feels uncomfortable?
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